A quote from this Huffington Post article on divorce and the grieving process sums it up nicely:
“Moving forward with your life is critical to the process of healing. A court battle requires freezing at the stage of blame and fault. The debate escalates in court, focusing on who did what to whom. Character maligning becomes the focus rather than problem solving. This has an effect on you (and your relationship with your former spouse) that will last well beyond the end of the trial. Many people have told me years later that they wished they had never gone to trial because of how much it hurt them and their family.”
As family law attorneys, we constantly strive to have a better understanding of our clients’ feelings of loss and grief when they are going through a separation or divorce. This helps us be better lawyers and stronger advocates for our clients.